Bliss Liner Notes: Listening to Advice

Additional dissertations on Bliss:

You will realize that those who are living healthy lives are usually the ones least likely to give you advice. The healthy need not counsel the healthy.

It took me a while to realize this, but it seems that since I was born everybody has been telling me what to do with myself.

What makes me laugh now is realizing how many people are not doing what they would love to do, are not living the life that would make them truly happy even though they know that they can change their lives if they wanted to, but for some reason have decided not to, and they remain miserable because of it.

And they’re the ones telling me what to do with myself. Now that’s funny.

I’ve decided that I will not listen to what miserable people tell me. And the next time someone tells me what to do with myself, I’ll reply with this:

“Go fix yourself first, then tell me how I can fix myself.”

That’s another thing that I realized. People like to give advice because they don’t have a clue as to how to fix themselves, and maybe they’re hoping that if they help me fix me, they’ll figure out how to fix themselves. If you look at this approach from a sideways-slanted, squinting your eyes and standing on your head angle, it sort of makes sense.

Not.

The few people I’ve met who are living healthy lives, for some reason, never gave me much advice. If anything, I learned from them by observing them. Our conversations were about constructive things, positive things. Happiness.

When someone comes up to me and asks for my advice on something as grand as their life, I tell them:

“You have to make your own choices, and decide what is healthy and unhealthy for you. What is healthy for me is not necessarily what is healthy for you, so I cannot tell you what you should do. After you decide what is healthy for you, act accordingly.”